The sense of hurt and betrayal is enormous, often leading to divorce. Most people grappling with shame do not join extremist groups and plan to hurt people. Loading comments… Trouble loading? Same-sex parenting and children's outcomes: Just this week I met a young man who told me he hated gay pride, hated effeminate men but crucially was trying to work through these feelings by talking about them. Revised version used with permission http:
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Is 10% of the population really gay?
A very large body of social science research going back decades has documented the vital and unique role of mothers and of fathers in childhood development. My husband came out to me and his family a while ago about his being gay. The evidence suggested strong bias resulting in false positive outcomes for parent-reported measures in recruited samples of same-sex parents. Talking about gay shame and self-loathing is not easy. Many gay people know the most homophobic school bully often pops up in the local gay bar a few years later, but there are wider examples: Wikipedia articles in need of updating from July All Wikipedia articles in need of updating Official website different in Wikidata and Wikipedia TV.
Such existential dilemmas are often difficult to imagine, because sexual identity so easily trumps professional ones. Surveys started to distinguish between identity what sexual orientation you claim ; attraction who you find sexually attractive ; and behaviour whether you have had same-sex experiences. Third, I have known of several couples who entered marriage with the understanding that one of them was gay. But, when father loves another man? Polity is often a prescription for unintended consequences, and DADT's consequences have been of an inordinate magnitude.